Well....I made it through the first day of school. I am sleepy though. Lots of meetings today. I spent 30 minutes in my classroom. *sigh*
My main mental stuff today was thinking..or trying to talk myself out of liking the guy "Romeo" across the street. Yesterday, I cleaned and vacuumed the house and did some laundry. Well, about 1 o'clock I broke down and called Greg (he works with Romeo---he's a good friend of *T's.*) Now mind you I called him twice this week. But, I got his voice mail and said, will you just call me back and leave me Romeo's number on one of my phones. I sat down (but fortunately, I rolled my hair first because I planned on having dinner with *A*. 1:30 my door bell rings...I think it's my aunt and automatically go to my back door that leads to my garage. No. other car in my drive way. Mind you, I am in my bra and undies....so I throw on a black dress with a blue collar and run to the door. Well, Romeo is 1/2 way down my sidewalk. I was surprised. (Hello i had
Ok rather than type out 5 or 6 paragraphs, let me sum it up. Then people like BG, Rach, Christine and Mick can tell me their thoughts.
Bad-negative aspects in black, a flip side in red............
1. He has a girlfriend. They have been dating almost a year.
2. He said he feels a bit smothered and isn't sure where it's going.
3. He has been separated for 16 months and divorced for 13.
4. The ex wife had the gastric by pass surgery, lost 100 pounds had some plastic surgery done, and then cheated on him. When he confronted her, she picked up her stuff and left him. 3 months later she was pregnant and remarried. He felt devastated. They were married 17 years. No kids.
5. He's a guitar player hence we talked about music 2 hours easy. We definitely have that in common.
6. His G'ma has fussed at him by saying "Why aren't you dating the girl across the street instead of who you are seeing". (Go G'ma!!!)
7. He said he was flattered last week when he found out he was the topic of conversation at work. Greg asked his boss what Romeo's dating status was and was he available. His boss tells him this Wed. Well, come Friday the boss says....'So why aren't you dating the girl that lives across the street from you? I hear she's cool". Romeo is like Umm..How do you know about the girl across the street. Well, she's a teacher and her name's Rebecca. So how serious is it with the girl you are seeing...???????
8. He said I do love her, but I'm just not sure where it's going. Can we start off as friends?
9. He said, I want you to know I have noticed you for several months now. I've seen you mow your grass and I have seen a few guys at your place, so I thought you were dating. He described 2 of the guys. (Hey he checked them out pretty well to give descriptions) It ends up he was talking about *B* my gay friend and I explained that. The other one I think is *A*. Rebecca, I think you're a pretty girl.
(I covered my face and said, I am so sorry I don;t have make up on. He says "you're pretty with or without the make up. "
10. I asked him if we could do dinner or a concert sometime. He said "No, dinner would be a date", a concert we could do.
Monday, August 06, 2007
What do I do next if anything?
I'm confused, and disappointed.
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Eyee eyeee eyeeee. Touchie. Sounds like you are defintely getting some mixed signals. Can't life be easier than this??
You really got alot of info though. Great for him for finally talking so that you know what you are dealing with. He needs to defintely decide if he wants to be available first of all.
He has been looking at you. Good for you.
Grandma is on your side. Good for you.
Take this as a good sign. This is huge that you got a look inside his head.
:)
(Thanks for blogging, when you left me hanging with the doorbell ringing the other day I was wishing I had your phone number girl!)
Well....hmmmm. Don't quite know what to say about this. At least he is up front about the girlfriend. Obviously, he must be a little interested in you if he came over. Can you just handle being friends if that's what he really wants? Don't want to it to turn into 'friendly friends' and him still have his girlfriend on the side. Ummmm. Guess I don't trust men from way back in my dating days. ha. I guess at least now you know his story.
I agree with Christine and Angelfish... he needs to decide if he's serious enough to actually date you, not just 'be friends'.... hell we have enough friends... you want a man! Don't let him dick you around....
Christine- Thank you. I am feeling mixed signals. UMMMM, and almost feel like I am left hanging.
I'm glad you are blog buddy. Thanks for the support!!
Angel- I am as confused as you are...ok maybe confused is the wrong word. I feel kinda like he's teasing me.
chris- Thanks for coming over! How the hell do I make him decide?????
Damn. From what I've read in the post-- he definitely likes you. He's been paying attention to details, which is definitely a good thing...
On the flip side-- he is staying in a relationship he's not entirely sure about-- which isn't good. He needs to get his head out of his ass and stand on his own two feet, with his head facing up to the world.
Granted, I can understand him being hurt and apprehensive after what happened with his ex-wife-- but it's going to be up to him to realize, that you can't stay in a relationship, if you *don't- which means you really do* know it's going nowhere.
He needs to open himself up to being happy!
All you need to do, is keep on doing what you've been doing. Be your wonderful self! :0) Enjoy your life, and go on with it the way you always have-- let him sweat it, and maybe that will knock some sense into his happy ass!
*Hugs and love*
Difficult one this some of the behaviour is confusing.
I love analysing charactors of people and this is tough. I know you are really after a stable relationship so I'll start there.
First thing a relationship is built on respect and trust now the good point about this is Romeo was honest about his situation so I suppose thats a start.
He's obviously noticed other men leaving your home, now believe me most of us blokes don't like to think of the ladies we like/love with anyone else, we are suckers for getting jealous, try not to show it but the honest truth is we do.
Knowing you from what you have blogged on various posts you really do want to find a soulmate that will love and cherish you and nothing wrong with that. Saying that you can try too hard, I'm not been critical but if you are too pushy you will certainly scare him away, I think at best this bloke needs time and space. In fact you are setting yourself up for becoming his bit on the side.
To be fair to him I don't necessarily think thats what he is after but you may have given some wrong signals at this stage.
Now this man and what he wants well I've a gut feeling he is still in love with his wife and that is the stumbling block with the current girlfriend and also the possibility of you stricking up a serious relationship with him.
The problem with these situations is you would always be compared to his ex wife so chances of success are slim.
Sorry I've gone on a bit but its not an easy question, I'd hate to see you hurt. For the record I think you are a lovely person and would be a great for most men, there as just got to be one around the corner.
Hope you don't mind me commenting on your post.
I think it would be wise to keep it friendly at the moment. For definite until he is single.
He hadn't been separated from his wife for very long when he started seeing his girlfriend, so really it could be an 'on the rebound' thing, even though they have been together a year. I would imagine she helped him through some bad times and he feels loyalty towards her.
I know its a pain in the ass but time more often that not gives us answers.
Best of luck, and make sure you look gorgeous when you cut the grass! ;)
For what's it's worth:
1. He was honest with you about the girlfriend. AWESOME.
2. Some of the best relationships I know, started out as friends. No pressure, you know you enjoy being around each other, and it can lead to a "better" relationship.
3. He thinks you're pretty (which YOU ARE) so he's noticed you and is attracted to you.
4. He was willing to talk about everything - the divorce, why it happened, what he's feeling about his girlfriend (if he's feeling smothered, to be out with you will give him a chance to compare and you, my friend, will come out ahead!), all stuff he could have hidden from you.
5. Definitely go for it - but slowwly so he thinks it is his idea (wink, wink)
If I were you I would plant a tomatoe farm, and eat tomato worms like I do. Just kidding. It all sounds pretty like a pretty tough decision. Hang in there, Captain Beware! I'm losing weight so fast. Off to the bat cave!
"The Captain"
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Geez, you GO girl!! Sounds like progress to me!
Relationships don't happen like in the movies - SNAP!! They develop slowly, go with this. You've got several good foot holds and back up in the form of G,ma and The Boss. He's NOTICED YOU!!! That's the best! YAY!!
Be casual with him, don't push or you'll pressure him into deciding which of the 2 of you is safer!
I agree with White Rose Boy, though. He's still in love and pining for his Ex. He's badly shaken. He's staying where he fells comfortable right now. Your job is to make him question that.
Be a gardener, tend to this little plant and watch the relationship grow. It won't happen overnight, but with patience it will bloom.
Hope I made some sense and was a tad helpful.
Thanks for being a constant at my blog. I know I haven't visited much. the oppresive heat we've been having lately has really put a whammy on me. It's 100 outside and none too cool on the inside, either, by the time the house swells with the sun's heat.
(I am like a worm on the side walk on a hot dry day - ICK!!!)
D :)
I am not sure I would persue anytype of relationship with this guy until he breaks up with his girlfriend. Sounds like a heartbreak waiting to happen. Just play it cool and keep looking beautiful...he'll come around if he wants to. I know that a man can't resist the woman he wants...thats a fact Jack! Tell him you would be interesting in getting to know him better if he become available (breaks up with the girlfriend). Also, he must like you if he has been checking out the guys coming to your house, and you mowing! Good also that he is honest with you....my advice, give it some time, keep the bait fresh (your beautiful self!) and he will surely come around soon :) Good luck with it!
Did I ever mention that I am Phsycic - Check your email there will be one from a very nice man, I sense it.
go G'ma! I think she is right on.
1 year? it doesnt sound like TRUE love.
How awful hes had his heart crushed, so I can certainly cut him some slack for being CONFUSED.
I also think there is a chance...
Just for the record I didn't post the comment about eating tomato worms it was that nasty fake captain. Take it easy.
Jeff
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